Hostile People
Sometimes it's unclear if a person is being hostile. At other times, it's all too clear that the person acting in a hostile-aggressive manner is a dirty digger. You'll deal better with the dirty diggers if you can identify their characteristics. Do you think the following statement is true or false?
Identify a Dirty Digger
When somebody says, "Not a bad job for someone they didn't expect much from anyway," he/she’s only joking or it’s a hostile comment? The person making this comment is not just joking; it's being hostile. His/her words are very insensitive and aimed at hurting the recipient.
In this case, the person is using humor to attack her co-worker. The person making this comment is being hurtful towards the other person by making a very insensitive comment that's wrapped in humor.This is definitely a dirty digger.
Dirty Digger’s Characteristics
Dirty diggers are difficult to be around. You need to learn to identify them in the workplace by their offensive behavior. In this topic, you'll learn their descriptive characteristics. Dirty diggers are:
- jokesters
- offensive
- disrespectful, and
- insensitive.
When you can identify the characteristics of dirty diggers, you've taken a big step toward being able to cope with their hostile-aggressive behavior. Dirty diggers at their best or their worst--depending on your view--can offend just about everyone. Their insensitive behavior seems to come naturally to them.
Any contact you may have with a dirty digger will most likely be unpleasant. Jokester Dirty diggers never seem to take anything seriously. For them, life is an opportunity to amuse them--usually at someone else's expense. Often their barbs are not funny to the person on the receiving end or to others within hearing range.
Joking is a way of life, often unpleasant for others. Offensive Dirty diggers delight in offensive behavior, especially if they can offend multiple people with one sarcastic remark. And if called to task, they fall back on the defense of "Hey, I was just kidding. Come on, can't you take a little joke?" "Give offense" is their motto.
Disrespectful Dirty diggers demonstrate disrespect for others at every opportunity. "How disrespectful can I be to someone today?" seems to be their morning mantra. For some, "disrespectful" may be the self-visualization card taped to their bathroom mirror. Insensitive Just how insensitive can someone be?
Pretty insensitive if a dirty digger is involved. Biting sarcasm and barbed jokes are insensitive and usually hurtful. Offensiveness and insensitivity delivered as jokes are the dirty digger's hallmarks. Insecure and disrespectful When you know the characteristics of the dirty diggers, you realize they often feel insecure around other people.
In response, they act out through inappropriate behavior that others may find offensive rather than humorous. Dirty diggers may want to be liked, but they just don't know how to go about it. Social inferiority is a feeling ascribed to many dirty diggers.
The disrespectful behaviors they exhibit are likely a response to those they see as "their betters." Of course, this feeling of inferiority leads to constant offensive behavior.
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